How to get an impressive life…
November 20, 2009 Leave a comment
…not just an impressive lifestyle.
One of my favourite shows is “The Secret Millionaire“. It’s about millionaires – with pretty impressive lifestyles, going undercover to understand the issues facing those less fortunate than themselves….and then making a difference to their lives. The reason I love it is for the obvious feel good factor of seeing people in difficult circumstances being treated so compassionately but equally, I love it because the millionaires, without exception, seem to be genuinely touched by the experience.
Which brings me to today’s blog. Continuing the theme of Irresistible Attraction, in this blog we look at the importance of getting an impressive life, not just an impressive lifestyle – although the two are not mutually exclusive! You can have both if you want.
So what’s the difference? Well, the first question to think about is:
“Am I working for a lifestyle that I either desire or need to maintain or am I living the life I want.”
How much of your life is consumed by your lifestyle?
To demonstrate this point, do you (or do you know of people who) feel trapped in a job you don’t really like, have to earn a certain (high) income to pay the mortgage, the credit cards, the holidays, the private school fees etc., yet feel totally exhausted and often p*$ed off with the world because you’re fed up with it all?
Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not suggesting that you give up all of these things, give away all of your money and start travelling cattle class. But if all of the trappings of your impressive lifestyle are just costing you too much, then perhaps it’s worth considering downsizing or scaling back. Most people won’t do this until they’re faced with a crisis – job loss, major illness, divorce. It’s just too scary and for a lot of people, they’ve never really thought about how they’d fill the vacuum left behind once they remove themselves from the rate race.
Perhaps a gentler approach might involve:
1. List 5 material possessions that you have that you’ve outgrown, outlived or just don’t need, then give them all away.
2. Work out how much of your budget you spend on “lifestyle” items – e.g. entertainment, clothes, beauty, then for the next month, spend 20% less on these items but make it your goal to have the most fun month that you’ve had in a long while.
3. Write down all of the people that are important in your life and how much time you’ve spent with them in the last month. Then write down those that you spend time with that are just contributing to your impressive lifestyle and how long you’ve spend with them in the last month. Now make it a plan to spend more time next month with the people on the first list.
Most of this is about reversing the impressive lifestyle but how do you get an impressive life? That’s the million dollar question.
Here’s some ideas to get you started:
1. Identify people you think have an impressive life – or even an intriguing lifestyle. Arrange to meet them to talk about what they do and how they got there.
2. Spend some time over the holidays to think about what you really want to do with the rest of your life. Create a visual storyboard using photographs and magazine clippings.
3. Consider what would happen if you just STOPPED. What would you lose that really matters to you? How would you fill your time? What’s the worst thing that could happen? Where will you be if you don’t stop?
4. Use this Life Assessment Tool to review where you are and where you’d like to be. Consider working with a coach to get some clarity and direction.
Life’s just too short to waste it doing things we don’t enjoy.
Tell me all about your impressive life – or lifestyle!